Do they call you a bitch boss?

Hi, It’s Lies Helsloot, Transformation Mentor

As I reflect on my own journey to the C-suite and the experiences I’ve encountered along the way, I am reminded of a crucial lesson that has shaped me both personally and professionally. It’s a lesson about the profound impact of authenticity and self-care in leadership, and how failing to embrace these aspects can sometimes lead to being labeled a “bitch boss.” My question to you: “Do they call you a bitch boss?”

The term “bitch boss” is a stereotype often used to describe assertive, confident, and ambitious women in leadership roles. While it’s an unfair and outdated label, it is sometimes assigned to those who don’t conform to traditional gender roles or leadership expectations. This label is not exclusive to women; it can be applied to anyone in a leadership position who is perceived as overly authoritative or unapproachable. But in my opinion and working with C-level women in my practice as a Transformation Mentor I have to say that often they ARE BITCHES. But they carry that personality because they do not really know their true Self.

How to break free from this.

So, why does this happen, and how can we break free from this limiting stereotype and stop stereotyping ourselves out of not knowing who we truly are? Here’s my take on it:

1. Authenticity Matters: Authenticity is the cornerstone of effective leadership. When we try to be someone we’re not, it shows. People can sense insincerity, you playing a role that doesn’t match your true personality and it erodes trust. Authentic leaders are genuine, transparent, and unafraid to show vulnerability. They lead with their true selves, and this authenticity builds stronger connections with their teams. I have seen it happening over and over when working with corporate teams.
2. a lack of Self-Care: Often, people who are labeled “bitch boss” are those who prioritize their work over their own well-being. While ambition is commendable, neglecting self-care can lead to burnout, bore out, stress, and a short temper. And we all know what happens when we snap at our team or home at night at our loved ones. When we take care of ourselves, we’re better equipped to handle the challenges of leadership with grace and empathy.
3. Knowing your True Self is Key: Knowing who you are meant to be and taking the self-care time to find out is the foundation of any successful leader. Sometimes, the label “bitch boss” arises from a lack of clear communication with… yourself. Leaders must be open, approachable, and willing to listen to their core calling. Encourage open dialoguewith a mentor,write in your journal about a day at the office when things weren’t flowing, seek feedback, and be willing to adapt your way of living. Becoming YOU is essential.
4. Dismantle Gender Bias: The “bitch boss” label often disproportionately affects women leaders. We must continue to challenge gender biases and stereotypes. Embrace diversity and inclusion in your organization, and actively promote an environment where all leadership styles are valued. It is a fact that the majority of women in leadership positions come home to a place where most of the family tasks are also on their plate. No wonder you break, feel drained, or snap at your spouse or kids. You play a role to hang in there.
5. Lead by Example: As leaders, our actions speak louder than words. Demonstrate empathy, respect, and kindness in your interactions. Show your team that leadership can be assertive without being abrasive and ambitious without being ruthless. But start with yourself. You are the key. If you don’t act like yourself, if you don’t know how to take self-care how do you expect things to change? It all starts with YOU.

So, do they call you a bitch boss? This is my conclusion…

In conclusion, being labeled a “bitch boss” is a symptom of a larger issue within our workplaces and societybut in my opinion in our SOUL. It’s a label that often emerges when authenticity and self-care are neglected, and communication with our TRUE SELF falters. But by embracing these principles and working to dismantle stereotypes, we can redefine what it means to be a successful leader, live life with more flow. Without compromising on results in business.

It all starts with becoming YOU. Stop playing a role to fit the part… You are the one that thinks you have to do that.

More like these kind of life questions? Then read my article about “how are you doing“.

My name is Lies Helsloot, Transformation Mentor and I call myself the first TAKE YOU TIME™ Mentor. I am the author of 3 books (“Walk Yourself Slim & Happy. How taking More Steps can Change Your Life”, “Move yourself slim and happy”(English translation coming soon) and “The Complete Guide to healthy Hair“), I blog here at takeyoutime.com and coach individual clients, groups and companies around the world to live a happy, healthy life and more work-life balance with my 7-step concept of self-care called TAKE YOU TIME™. For more motivation and free training and challenges, be sure to sign up for the newsletter on this site and follow me on Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. Or get in touch to know about my online- and coaching programs.

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